The Ins and Outs of Hiring Your Nanny
Your nanny will become part of your family and it’s important to make sure that it is a good fit for everyone! Of course you want to make sure that your kids love their nanny, but it’s just as important for parents and nannies to have great communication and trust. A full-time nanny could be spending as much or more time with your kids than you, which means that you will be co-parenting to some extent. Of course no one will ever come close to replacing mom and dad, but it does mean that you need to be on the same page with your nanny about how you want to raise your children and any specific parenting methodologies you follow.
After interviews, background checks, and references, presumably anyone you’re talking to is capable of taking care of your kids and keeping them safe. Now you need to make sure that your nanny candidate is a good fit for your family, depending on your needs. After discussing payments (both wages and method of payment) and availability/scheduling, there are two big things that you should discuss.
The first is how long you are expecting your nanny to be with your family. There are career nannies who could be with your family forever, and there are nannies who will be with your family as long as they can but are working towards a different career long-term. This is incredibly important to discuss, because change is hard for kids! Nannies aren’t just a domestic employee, they have a huge influence on children and a household. A nanny may not be with you forever, especially as your need for additional care changes as children get older and are in school, but you do want to find reliability and consistency.
Like I mentioned before, you need to make sure your nanny is on the same page as you in terms of parenting. Anyone can read a book and get themselves up to speed with a certain methodology or technique, so you can always offer resources to someone willing to learn, but make sure they are willing to do that. A good nanny will want to follow your lead and is happy to do things your way, you just need to give them the tools to do so and make sure that it is something they are comfortable with.
Lastly, after you have discussed all of the above things and you feel like your nanny candidate is a good fit, it’s time to introduce your prospective nanny to your children. This is the final test before hiring your nanny- you’re almost there! Kids are extremely intuitive and you’ll be able to tell pretty quickly if your kids will be able to get along with and respect this person as their nanny. They may be shy and slow to open up, but you should be able to tell if they are comfortable and you will get to see a little bit of how the nanny interacts with them. At this point you have everything you need to make a decision! If they’ve come this far and you feel good about it, then you’ve found your nanny!